Interesting posts, weekend of 2/13

02/13/2011 at 3:32 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | 1 Comment
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Dear internet, I have come to a revolutionary decision. Or conclusion. A thought. Here’s what’s on my mind right now: If your definition of “Sex positive” does not include sexual dysfunction, then your definition isn’t positive enough. I thought about it for more than 5 seconds and then decided that it’s really not that revolutionary at all. But I am certain that to anyone who doesn’t think about this addendum, it will seem that way.

Friendly reminder: I am looking for Guest Posters. I want to hear more perspectives on the themes dealt with here at Feminists with Female Sexual Dysfunction. Because I am dealing with such a sensitive topic, I don’t think I can actively recruit new posters, since if I went onto someone else’s blog and said something like, “Hey u wanna write a post about your sexual health and/or feminism on a public forum?!” that would probably be very invasive. For this reason, Guest Posters requesting to remain anonymous will also be taken seriously.
At this time, criteria for inclusion is, “If you think you would fit in here, you probably would.” This may be subject to change but for now we’ll try that & see how it goes.
In an attempt to preemptively fight spam and rude comments, this blog’s email is private. Please leave a comment on this post if you want to write something. I’ll screen comments so you can remain anonymous if you want. That way I’ll have your email and we can collaborate.
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Can’t get enough of feminism and sexual dysfunction on the internet? You may want to think about following the Twitter feed, which is more accurately described as my Twitter feed since no one else manages it. Some of my daily mundane and/or angry thoughts sneak in there but I try to include trendy topics as well as a healthy dose of sexual dysfunction related news when I find it. But I am still having problems with it on my mobile device.

Now then, on with the blog link roundup that’s starting to become an irregular feature around here. Posts I found interesting over the few weeks. Share links if’n you got’em. Remember, if I left anything out, it’s not because a topic was unimportant – it’s because I am a one person with a finite time on my hands. (Some notable omissions this week are a deliberate effort to stay under troll radar.)

Hey, if you live in the New York City area, check out this calendar of events… Events Calendar for Babeland – On March 10, 2011, the Babeland Brooklyn store is going to host an event, “Overcoming painful sex.” Isa Herrera wrote this self-published book, Ending Female Pain, and she’s going to be at the workshop. It’s FREE!

Hey, if you live in the Seattle area, I see there’s also an event targeting medical professionals at the Seattle store, scheduled for March 31, 2011. The description says staff will show medical pros some devices that might assist patients dealing with pre-orgasmia, ED or ejaculation problems and menopause. Also FREE! (Am I supposed to flap my arms and go all like, “Uh oh, someone’s trying to medicalize sexuality! Quick! Someone stop them!” now? No I’m not doing that. I will, however, segue:)

The ubiquitous film, Orgasm Inc. will be releasing into more movie theaters over the next couple of weeks, so we’re probably going see yet another flurry of almost identical reviews of the movie. Call me cynical, but it seems that every time it releases somewhere else (Can it really be considered a “New” film if it came out in 2009?) there’s a a couple of sites that review it – and proceed to question the validity of sexual dysfunction, usually by citing poor sex education, Big Pharma, genital cosmetic surgery (SHOCK VALUE!) and one of the participants in the film who had the sensationalized orgasmatron spinal cord device installed. These reviews usually end by offering unsolicited advice and/or inviting blog commenters to speculate as to the reality of what folks like me and my friends are going through. And further to speculate as to whether or not folks like me and my friends really need to have a medical option available or whether we should all just dump our boyfriends, who simply must be shitty in bed (the assumption in comments is almost always one of heterosexuality.) This month’s (week’s? I have no doubt there’ll be more soon) obligatory Orgasm Inc. press coverage comes from FeministingWired magazine and Jezebel. (Note: this particular Jezebel post actually does the thing where the OP openly invites speculation.)
I think I finally saw a date pinned down as to when the DVD will be available, something about June.
Since it’s supposed to be more widely available soon, I would like to request that a guest poster who has some experience with FSD write a review of Orgasm Inc. for this blog.  Also because I am selfish, so that I can brace myself for it when I eventually have no choice but to watch the film. I’ll have to watch eventually but you go first.

In more helpful news, here’s A new idea – The 5’11″ish woman is interested in starting a vulvodynia support group via Skype. Times like this I really like technology.

Good Vibrations House Calls: I’m Way Too Tight – Some suggestions for dealing with difficulty when attempting vaginal insertion during sex.
Something for the folks who once had but are now minus a prostate: Good Vibrations House Calls: Orgasm After Prostatectomy
Sex Isn’t The Same Since My C-Section! – It isn’t just vaginal birth that can lead to sexual problems and scarring after having a baby.
Something highly disturbing which just illustrates how ableism is still an actual thing in the world (Trigger warning:Informing Consent. A man with cognitive disabilities was legally barred from having sexual relationships and from receiving sex education, on the advice of a psychiatrist. This is problematic on multiple levels; one of the problems is that by denying sex education to people with disabilities, you also make it harder to report sexual assault.

Something else about sexual health and Big Pharma – in this case, an antidepressant which may cause fewer sexual side effects vs. traditional SSRIS and discussions with folks who did experience sexual side effects while on antidepressants: Antidepressants and sex: A doomed romance? Via Violet Blue [NSFW]. Might be of interest to some readers here. Ever the cynic, I find myself wondering why I didn’t see any feminist blog posts making fun of this drug’s name the way that the word “Flibanserin” became the butt of some kind of huge joke last year.

More on Big Pharma and the miscellaneous hazards of backlash against it: How To Avoid Being Seen As A Drug-Seeker (if you have chronic pain), also A Chronic Pain Patients Bill Of Rights. and finally The Government’s Cruel War On Pain Medication. Don’t know about using “Ron Paul” and “Good” in the same sentence, though.

In old time news, here’s Your Sex Questions Answered (Jan 1959) – This is 11 pages of actual sex questions and answered published in an old magazine, Sexology. You can buy “Best of” collections of this magazine on Amazon! Some of these questions and articles are very interesting and well-answered! Others are handled just terribly to the point where it’s almost humorous! The nice thing about this article is that, even though the pages are in graphic form, there’s a full text transcript at the bottom. I might come back to this article later as a full blog post because it looks like fun to pick apart.

Superbowl Sunday was last Sunday. It was turned into “Porn Sunday” by some anti-porn organizations. Food for thought; here are some posts that take quite different stances regarding pornography and Porn Sunday. The first one is actually an Oldie but Goodie from last year, a friendly reminder of just who it is that’s so All Up Ons about porn: Anti-Porn Profiteering: What They’re Selling. Now compare this with explicitly anti-porn, Pornography Nation. Did you catch that? Okay, now compare that to Humans Aren’t Rodents. Porn Isn’t Ruining Marriages. Interesting conversations going on in the comments over there.

GOP Cuts – a list of the departments, programs, and amounts of $ which US Republicans have proposed cutting. Ow. Ow. Ooooww. These cuts would essentially defund Title X, family planning, which includes health care for women.

Here’s a neat book and blog, because I just really like comics. Black Comix by black writers & illustrators, blog especially covers events pertaining to the book. Via Boiling Point Blog.

Feminism 101: Helpful Hints for Dudes, Part I – Helpful advice for the gentlemen who are themselves feminist or have feminist partners. I especially like the advice where Liss is all like, stop asking the ladies to divorce their sexuality or some other component from who they are. (I get that a lot. Some variation of “Well if it weren’t for X, then wouldn’t you Y?”)

Africans in Ancient China & Vice Versa, Part 4: A Final Word about Zheng He–Guest Blog by Eccentric Yoruba – Something that I didn’t learn from my highly informative Asian studies class.

Injustice at Every Turn: A Report of the National Transgender Discrimination Survey – A big study that shows how trans folk & people who don’t fit into nice neat little gender boxes face real, tangible, dangerous discrimination. As a result of this discrimination, trans & gender non-conforming folk deal face high rates of unemployment, poverty, lack of health care, educational barriers, violence and death. This report also includes some recommendations to reduce this discrimination.

Getting around to older items from my RSS feeder:

Ask Matt Monday: My Guy Doesn’t Want to Have Sex – in this blog post, Matt answers a reader query regarding a trans man who is uncomfortable with sexual activity in a relationship.

That troll who goes around targeting V-blogs and anything vaginismus related is still active. If That Guy, (it’s a guy) has tried to get all up in your bloggy business, then this may be of some use to you: How I minimize the online abuse I receive. Once again let me reiterate: there is a reason I make it deliberately hard to get in contact with me.

Do you scream?[Trigger warning] – This is an example of one way rapists groom their victims.

Last week I posted a link to shitty logo design for women’s groups. This week here’s a common uncreative theme shitty advertisements use when targeting the ladies: Women laughing alone with salad (via Feministe.)

As always, I’m sure there’s more…

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  1. I’m interested in writing guest blog posts about feminism and sexual dysfunction. I’m currently working on a memoir about the last 6 years. I discovered my vaginismus on my honeymoon, which developed into vulvar vestibulitis 3 years into our marriage. I had surgery in January 2010, which finally resolved the issue. I’d be happy to submit a sample of my writing about the issue.

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