Interesting posts, weekend of 9/5/10

09/05/2010 at 9:30 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | 2 Comments
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Dear internet, summer is coming to a close soon. Some of you have already returned to class and others will be going to school shortly. Not me though. I graduated school and I’m so not ready to go back for an ever-higher degree. Or to start over doing what I really love. The sun is setting earlier, the weather’s getting cooler… some of these late summer days are just lovely. I spent some more time outdoors this week for work and play. The only downside is that bugs still try to eat me whole. And this late in the season means hurricane season may still have quite a lot left to throw at us. I went shopping again this weekend and I got some more nice new clothes for cheap. I could still use some new sweaters for th winter though… and pretty soon I’ll need to load up on new thigh-high socks. And possibly 1980s leg warmers.

No pictures of strangely named stuff to show you this week. I ran out last time and I’m still looking for neat stuff to break up the massive walls of text here.

Friendly reminder: I am looking for Guest Posters. I want to hear more perspectives on the themes dealt with here at Feminists with Female Sexual Dysfunction. Because I am dealing with such a sensitive topic, I don’t think I can actively recruit new posters, since if I went onto someone else’s blog and said something like, “Hey u wanna write a post about your sexual health and/or feminism on a public forum?!” that would probably be very invasive. For this reason, Guest Posters requesting to remain anonymous will also be taken seriously.
At this time, criteria for inclusion is, “If you think you would fit in here, you probably would.” This may be subject to change but for now we’ll try that & see how it goes.
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Can’t get enough of feminism and sexual dysfunction on the internet? You may want to think about following the Twitter feed, which is more accurately described as my Twitter feed since no one else manages it. Some of my daily mundane and/or angry thoughts sneak in there but I try to include trendy topics as well as a healthy dose of sexual dysfunction related news when I find it.

Now then, on with the weekly blog link roundup. Posts I found interesting over the last week. Share links if’n you got’em.

A new survey for women with vulvodynia and/or other chronic, invisible conditions is up on Survey Monkey, conducted by the authors of Secret Suffering. The topic is how the medical community treats patients with these chronic conditions. Found via Living with Vulvar Vestibulitis.

Accessible Sex Toys What Does It Mean to Say a Sex Toy Is Accessible? – and then Sex Toy Accessibility Checklist Tips on Choosing a Sex Toy That’s More Accessible – Takes a broad view of what accessible means; technically there’s no sex toys specifically for disabled people just because there’s so many different kinds of disability, not monolithic. Via Babeland.

August 2010 comments on the F-Word – includes feedback from the Honeymoon Cystitis article recently posted. Some of the feedback is better than others… For example according to one of the comments published, apparently I am a mythical creature once again.

Hmm, let’s offset the one comment that I wasn’t too fond of in that last link with something about the language surrounding PIV sex. Intercourse, suffering, pleasure, and feminism: more on “envelop” v. “penetrate”

Good Vibrations House Calls: Too Tight for Penetration! – Some suggestions for addressing difficulty with vaginal insertion of objects, including vaginismus.

Boyfriend pressing you for sex? Buy him a scented candle! – Yet another reason I don’t want sex therapy.

Sexual Subject vs. Object – Hugh Hefner does not understand the difference.

If Gail Dines Would Stop Shaming People, Maybe Folks Would Listen – Saw this one going around on my Twitter feed for the last few days. I’ve also seen Gail Dines in the news (or at least, the blogosphere) more recently (she’s a prolific critic of pornography.) I’m not sure though if she’s always this active or if she’s going ’round the tubes extra lately as part of marketing for her new book.

Social Justice: What Do We Want? – There is some discussion going on across blogs about re-thinking the social justice blog tactic known as a call-out, which in effect looks like a swarm and can feel like bullying to the person being called out.

Why I use that word that I use: Problematic – If you see feminist blogs (like this one) using that word and you don’t know what it means, read this.

There’s Good News and Bad News. And Fat News. – Also about depression and getting good medical care.

Focus on the Family attacks anti-bullying efforts as part of the “gay agenda” – How could any organization possibly be in favor of bullying?! Focus on the Family is just that.

I Ain’t Sayin’ You’re a Golddigger – Because my partner and I have different degrees, different experiences and … different sexes, we are likely to find ourselves in this or a similar situation shortly, where he will be at least partially supporting me, financially. Which is going to feel really awkward and as though I failed to put my degree to good use, but for now I just feel gypped that my education is NOT proving to be the magical ticket to financial security everybody told me it would be. My partner & I haven’t figured out how to address that yet but we know from watching our parents relationships that it can lead to trouble down the road later.

Restrictions on Choice in States – Ways in which reproductive freedom is anything but in many states within the US. You may still be able to get an abortion but only after jumping through unnecessary hoops that aren’t supported by good science. Comments recommended on this one.

More on floods in Pakistan and gender impact – A few weeks ago there were major earthquakes in Pakistan. Women are disproportionately effected by disasters worldwide and that’s the case now too. This also links to some places where you can donate funds to support relief efforts.

Go Where?: Sex, Gender, and Toilets – Fun, feminist roundup & analysis of bathroom signs.

I’m sure there’s more…



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  1. Related to your section about Choice, it is my opinion that women should have that choice, without all the red tape and without jumping through hoops. It’s a hard enough and painful enough decision already. Yes, there are the scary few who use abortion as birth control, and that’s horrible, but their actions shouldn’t be considered. Sometimes people get pregnant and they can’t take care of a baby. Children give birth to children and they live in poverty. The line for children to be adopted is so long it will never come to an end. Some people should terminate their pregnancy. It’s not an easy decision and it shouldn’t be, but it should BE a decision. There are already enough homeless children, children who are beaten everyday because their parents resent them for being born, children to jump from one foster family to the next. We have enough of that. If you are ill-equiped to raise a child, then you should have the RIGHT to make the decision to get an adoption. I am not pro-adoption (it’s sad, it’s hard), but I am pro choice (sometimes it’s the right thing to do).

    • Weeeeellllll

      I am encouraged that you see that reproductive choice, including the right to abortion, should be legal and as hassle-free as possible!


      There’s a couple of other ideas in this comment that warrant further examination. Let’s see if I can change your mind. Here’s some stuff to get you started:

      Four Abortion Myths Dispelled – Couple of other thoughts I have on this topic: It’s not okay to judge the reason that a woman gets an abortion. Birth control can fail, or it can be surprisingly hard to get in the first place – even condoms, for example, are sometimes locked up behind the pharmacy counter. Or in the case of reproductive coercion, someone may be denied access to birth control in the first place, by their partner. Limits on access to birth control, abortion and sexual health education are factors in teen pregnancy. But stigmatizing teen parents doesn’t help them do a good job being parents – better social supports, on the other hand…. Here’s something about that. Preventing Teen Pregnancy: Three Words Most Likely to Make My Blood Boil

      There’s ethical issues surrounding adoption too. You already touched upon how hard it is for a birth parent to give up their child, so here’s some other stuff to think about. The adoption vs. abortion myth Particularly international adoption. The lie we love

      The “Some people should terminate their pregnancy” has serious ethical, historical, eugenics implications. The idea that some people “Should” get abortions is still prevalent to this day and it is a force behind forced sterilization of disabled folks, trans folk, and people of color: Reproductive Justice is for Everyone, Even People You Don’t Like”, Be even more afraid, Against Their Will: Special Series on the History of Forced Sterilization in North Carolina

      All of those links go to good sources on reproductive health & choice. So, reproductive freedom is a broad topic and being pro-choice goes beyond abortion.

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