Interesting posts, weekend of 3/7/10

03/07/2010 at 5:54 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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Dear internet, it was a regular week for me this week. I’m still inclined towards procrastinating on that sexology book but I got some writing done at least. I’m basically finished reading it, I just need to flesh out my thoughts on it. I’m having a hard time finding comfortably-fitting fashionable pants. This week may be a bit busier for me as I have a few appointments I need to attend to.

Friendly reminder: I am looking for Guest Posters. I want to hear more perspectives on the themes dealt with here at Feminists with Female Sexual Dysfunction. Because I am dealing with such a sensitive topic, I don’t think I can actively recruit new posters, since if I went onto someone else’s blog and said something like, “Hey u wanna write a post about your sexual health and/or feminism on a public forum?!” that would probably be very invasive. For this reason, Guest Posters requesting to remain anonymous will also be taken seriously.
At this time, criteria for inclusion is, “If you think you would fit in here, you probably would.” This may be subject to change but for now we’ll try that & see how it goes.
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Now then, on with the weekly blog link roundup. Posts I found interesting for one reason or another over the last week. Share links if’n you got’em.

This turned out to be quite a bit of a bigger roundup than I was originally planning on.

The Amanda Palmer/Evelyn Evelyn controversey continues – here’s linkspam’s 7th roundup, featuring the notable Hoyden About Town post, Not Your Punchline, Amanda Palmer [may be triggering.] If ever there were any question about whether Palmer has been acting in good faith in response to criticism to her and Webley’s project, this should provide a pretty clear answer…

When Is Gay Love Not Problematic On Television? – About depictions of non-heterosexual couples & partners on television shows. The raw numbers of LGBTIQ couples may be increasing, but the way such couples are shown is still full of problems.
See also: MS. Failure: A Feminist’s Feminist, The Eulogy of Mary Daley – Interesting to me because I can’t get on board with MS. magazine either; however this post focuses on the magazine’s uncritical handling of Daly’s death. (You do remember the controversy that erupted shortly after Daly’s death, right? No? If not, check out one of my previous link round-ups and click around to get up to speed.)
Also from Renee this week (She’s on a roll): Monique Reveals that her Marriage Is Open…Minutes Later Judgement Ensues – I very much enjoyed this post (but not all of the comments) since one of my dear friends is in an open relationship, and because I’ve been exposed to the idea of an open relationship from some of the sexuality books I’ve been reading. It’s not right for everyone but sometimes it’s healthy. And then there’s Shaming Black Women Will Not Reduce Abortion – about those billboards and reproductive freedom.

Couple of double-whammies from Shakesville.
Holy Shit – “Holy shit” indeed… “A new report by the Southern Poverty Law Center states that right-wing extremist groups have grown 244% in the last year.” Definitely related: Not Terrorism in Texas. Even though it really is. (Amanda @ Pandagon wrote more about this, If you thought they’d stop at harassing women having abortions, you were naive.)
Today in Rape Culture – A pamphlet being handed out in Virginia blames women for sexual assault because women’s clothing tempts men sexually. Definitely related: In Other Things That Are Women’s Fault Too – According to science, beautiful women make men want to hurt themselves or something.

Some sexuality posts I’m grouping together. Because they’re about sexuality. Probably all NSFW but some are less NSFW than others.
Phthalate-Free Toys – [NSFW] Something worth considering, if you didn’t already know about your sex toys’ and/or dilator kit’s safety. Some toy and dilator materials are safer than others, because some materials we don’t know what, if any, effects they could have on the body. There’s a potential for toxicity if you use such toys without a condom over them.
Also about sexual health & safety – STD testing in the private sector – [NSFW] – Man I sure wish this test included Bacterial Vaginosis & Candida Yeast screenings 😦 Even though they’re not necessarily STIs. Also, the accessibility of testing centers is not widespread.
Feminist Porn Awards announces 2010 nominations – [NSFW] – It doesn’t have to be an oxymoron!
Definitely related: A Lesson In Anti-Porn Liberal Hypocrisy From AlterNet – [Maybe NSFW] Problems in the way “Alternative porn,” is marketed, even though the alternative stuff is supposed to be less problematic than mainstream.
[Greta Christina] A Cornucopia of Climaxes – [maybe NSFW, though I don’t see any naughty pictures as of right now.] About a variety of different types of orgasms or orgasm-like experiences. I notice one commenter also mentions that she herself does not orgasm, and, much like myself, does not desire input from a sex therapist. So her thoughts on the language of sexuality are worth giving extra consideration to.
So maybe that’s why we don’t know how birth control works – Unfortunately this post degenerated into quibbling over how to define “Sex” in the comments. Which totally sucks because then we have that whole “This is sex, that isn’t sex,” debate and the arbitrary lines drawn that exclude certain types of sex and kick out people who engage in them. And ultimately when we get into quibbling about what is & isn’t sex and therefore who is and isn’t having sex, sometimes I’ve come across comments that say your romantic relationship is invalid because you’re not having “Sex” proper. Fudge.
A few latecomers to the sexuality discussions: First – a short documentary about women reflecting on their first experiences with sexual intercourse. Sounds interesting.
Best Erotic Comics 2009 – [NSFW] I have a serious question which I will probably re-iterate in a more fleshed-out post at a later date – Are erotic graphic novels considered “Erotica” or “Pornography?” On the one hand, you have written text & words & stories, which makes me think it’s “Erotica…” but on the other hand, there’s pictures, and the pictures can be quite graphic, which makes me think “Porn.” I don’t know what to classify graphic novel & comic book naked & sex scenes as. I just know I like ’em.

Roundups of their own:
International Women’s Day is very soon! – March 8th, in fact; Chally rounded up a lot of links to provide a history of this day.
Jos from Feministing has a link roundup as well, the topic is Same Sex Marriage in DC Roundup.
And there’s also this [TRIGGERING IMAGES] roundup post about hate speech & crimes around University of California campuses and activism going on to combat it. March 4 Day of Action: Healing the University of California.
And there’ll be a month-long disability blog carnival which has nothing to do with the title of the carnival post: Disability Blog Carnival Number 64: caught us with our pants down (Theme is breaking down stereotypes.)

The Final Push For Health Care Reform Begins – Includes a speech by US President Obama on health care reform. Yes this debacle is still going on. Why is this not done yet? Also from Alas! Resign, Resign, Resign – about NY Governor Paterson’s involvement in obstruction of justice in a domestic violence case.

Trigger warnings re: sexual assault apply to all of the following, which address rape. Rape victim jailed for making “false” allegations – these allegations don’t sound fake… the handling of this victim’s case is appalling and unprofessional. South Africa: the continuing rise of ‘corrective’ rape – Non-heterosexual women, particularly lesbians, in South Africa are at risk of this particular type of rape; there may be up to 150 rapes in South Africa each day. “One-time bad decisions” that rapists keep on repeating – about the profiles of rapists, and some possible ways to handle those in your social circle who sound like they could be potentially dangerous for this reason. 7 Simple Responses Which Help Support An Anti-Rape Culture – Snappy answers to common rape myths. I just wish there were more because if I were to go back in time &  use some of these responses on people from my high school (ex. teachers…) I’d need even more snappy comebacks to whatever rape apologia I’d then be faced with.

will the last one at SF Gate / San Francisco Chronicle please turn out the lights? – Fascinating, but distressing story about what happened to Violet Blue’s archived sexuality column writings at SF Gate. (This post from VB looks work-safe on my end! Huh, no naughty pictures on this one.)

40 vs. 4000 – Short snappy post about a response to attacks on women’s reproductive rights.

Assistance to live – about providing alternatives to euthenasia – alternatives that can prolong and improve quality of life.

Last week in my blog roundup, I said I wish we could talk frankly & openly about sex addiction. Well, figleaf tried… How About Step One: Admitting They’re Powerless Over Their Addiction to Demonizing Sex? Well, I guess it’s a talk about it… not exactly what I had in mind but it’s something…

I’m sure there’s more…

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